Why I created this program
I grew up in a family where my basic needs for food, shelter and health care were met, yet conflict, hurt feelings and disconnection led to cycles of unhappiness, mistrust and disconnection that caused me to wonder CAN’T WE ALL GET ALONG? I mean, like the WHOLE WORLD?
Why – in one of the richest countries in the world, with material needs met at a level undreamed up by our ancestors was there so much violence, addiction, divorce, suicide, and domestic abuse? What would be needed for our country and for the world to change this?
My pursuit of answers to these questions led to my studying Psychology in college and graduate school and teaching in the fields of Psychology and Human Development for many years (my academic background). But I didn’t really feel that all this academic work helped me much in my search for understanding of how people and the world could get along better.
I also studied and received significant personal support from the fields of Counseling and Psychotherapy. But I didn’t see how Counseling and Therapy could bring about the changes I wanted in the world – for EVERYONE to get along better. Counseling and therapy are not available or acceptable to everyone. I wanted to identify processes which could lead to a world where EVERYONE COULD EXPERIENCE
- Support and caring for one another’s needs
- Being a part of community – having each other’s back
- Knowing their voices and all voices matter
- Kindness, safety and trust
Staring in 2003 I began to find a number of processes which DO
- Lead to greater happiness and well-being
- Increase satisfaction in personal and vocational lives
- Improve relationships and capability of addressing conflict
- Grow compassion for self and others
- Contribute to healthy people and communities
And, most importantly, these processes could be
- Learned in educational or community (not clinical) settings
- Understood and used by everyone
- “Caught” by others through a kind of contagion
- Shared around the world in a variety of cultures
I am so very thrilled to be sharing this material with educators in DC schools this year, building upon the success of a pilot program last year, limited primarily to staff at SEED school.
The pillars of this program are described on this web-site:
Each of these fields has contributed hugely to the quality of many people’s life, including my own. I am confident they will contribute to yours, and hope to meet you in the program.
Please feel free to call me through the “Let’s talk” page on this site. There is no obligation and I would enjoy meeting you.
Jane Connor McMahon
THIS 2-MINUTE VIDEO CHANGED MY LIFE!
I stumbled upon this video while browsing the website of the International Center for Nonviolent Communication in 2003. I was considering signing up for a 2-day, 5-day or 10-day training based upon the recommendation of an acquaintance. Before seeing this video I had never heard a person speak of a former spouse from a place of understanding, compassion and appreciation. After viewing it, I was aware of feeling in a state of shock.
If Linda could speak of an “ex” in that way after going through all the heart-ache that is usually associated with marrying and divorcing someone – I wanted to know how she was able to feel and do this! The social scientist in me wondered “What proportion of people who take this program experience this type of transformation?” But I was in a lot of pain at the time from conflicts in my family and the hurting woman inside me thought “Even if only a small percentage experience this benefit, I want to be one of those few and will do whatever I can to ‘get it.’ “
I immediately signed up for the 10-day intensive training. I had NEVER signed up for such a long training before – a path was set. Three days into this training I experienced a 30-minute conversation with a trainer that totally transformed the anguish I was feeling in relation to my daughter. The direction of my life was positively changed forever.
The skills and learning I acquired in addressing this most intense experience with my daughter have been the basis for greater success in my interactions with angry students, stressed parents, “annoying” supervisors, and “difficult” people in all aspects of my life. I never would have had the courage, for example, to accept the position of Chair of the Human Development Department at my school if it had not been for the increase in confidence I experienced from learning the skills of Nonviolent Communication.
You don’t have to prioritize one area of your life over another. All of you benefits.
Program Begins November 10, 2018 Limited to 25 participants, District Wide Don’t be disappointed!